1. Work on your own opinion of yourself. Refuse to think about insults or critical comments. Choose not to internalize abuse from your past. You win if let go of the hurt and pain and focus on creating a great life for yourself.
2. Continually affirm yourself. Make a list of your successes, good points and strengths. Write down compliments - and read them frequently. Also, reject any negative or critical thoughts. Don’t be your own enemy. You need to love yourself.
3. Start building confidence by taking a few steps. Begin to make decisions, or choose, for yourself – but just start small so it doesn’t feel too hard. The more you speak up, or make your own decisions, the easier and more automatic it will feel.